{"id":3434,"date":"2016-01-07T16:40:57","date_gmt":"2016-01-07T16:40:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/?p=3434"},"modified":"2016-01-07T16:40:57","modified_gmt":"2016-01-07T16:40:57","slug":"splain-it-to-me-status-451","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/2016\/01\/07\/splain-it-to-me-status-451\/","title":{"rendered":"Splain it to Me | Status 451"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/status451.com\/2016\/01\/06\/splain-it-to-me\/\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/lucille-ball-i-love-lucy.jpg?w=625&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Really interesting essay on culture clashes between widely different communication styles.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Here\u2019s a series of events that happens many times daily on my favorite bastion of miscommunication, the bird website. Person tweets some fact. Other people reply with other facts. Person complains, \u201cUgh, randos in my mentions.\u201d Harsh words may be exchanged, and everyone exits the encounter thinking the <em>other<\/em> person was monumentally rude for no reason.<\/p>\n<p>While some folks in some circles make hay over \u201cwell-actuallys\u201d and being \u201csplained to\u201d by \u201crandos,\u201d seeing such replies as bad-faith social posturing or indicative of deep-seated bias, more often than not I chalk up the friction to, like our yelling New Yorker being taken for rude, cross-cultural communication breakdown. The dynamics at play behind \u201cugh, randos\u201d are so pernicious because it isn\u2019t a simple problem of definitions or message integrity, but different views on what communication is or is for. What it often comes down to is people with fundamentally different, perhaps totally irreconcilable, values systems assuming \u201cmalice or stupidity\u201d where the real explanation is values mismatch and miscommunication.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><em><a href=\"http:\/\/status451.com\/2016\/01\/06\/splain-it-to-me\/\">Splain it to Me | Status 451<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Really interesting essay on culture clashes between widely different communication styles. Here\u2019s a series of events that happens many times daily on my favorite bastion of miscommunication, the bird website. Person tweets some fact. Other people reply with other facts. Person complains, \u201cUgh, randos in my mentions.\u201d Harsh words may be exchanged, and everyone exits [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3434","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p3pfIY-To","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3434","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3434"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3434\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3436,"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3434\/revisions\/3436"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3434"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3434"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.novonon.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3434"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}